“I really shouldn’t say this, but …”
When you hear yourself saying this, (and even worse, looking around the room and saying “but HR isn’t in the room”) just STOP.
You haven’t said it or done it yet. You have a chance to choose another way. Give yourself a time-out to think:
- Why is your instinct telling you so clearly that it is not the right thing to say?
- Why would you be willing to go against your own judgement?
- What might the consequences be?
If you can interrupt yourself and choose another way, there is a chance you can avoid a whole lot of self-inflicted career pain. Do yourself a favour and take that chance!